What Do You Give Someone Who is Sober?
When someone has decided to get sober and stay sober, their task is not easy. There is a huge social expectation to consume alcohol in almost every situation. People who are new at sobriety will likely feel left out. Alcoholism is a complex condition that doesn’t just go away. Most alcoholics can never drink successfully again, and they accept this. Others struggle but trying to stay sober is the mark of change, and supporting these individuals can save them from returning to drinking.
Globally there are 3 million deaths per year due to the harmful use of alcohol. (WHO)
As a result of these dire consequences and horrific statistics, sober anniversary gifts are a positive reinforcement that shows recovery from addiction and sustaining that recovery, is absolutely worth the effort.
Is Alcoholism Really That Hard To Overcome?
Alcoholics have lost the ability to control how much they drink. Problem drinkers can still stop but often overdue it. Binge drinkers binge on dangerous amounts of alcohol on weekends or holidays and put their health at risk. The reason that alcoholism is difficult is not that the person cannot drink; it is because they used alcohol to self-medicate.
People in recovery are without medication essentially. The issue is not about the alcohol but the person’s mental and emotional states, not after they quit but before they ever drank. Most if not all alcoholics share personal histories of trauma, abuse, or other adverse situations. Their recovery is an ongoing journey of healing.
To begin healing past damage in the mind and heart of a newly sober alcoholic is through in-depth therapy, group support, and belief in a higher power or God.
Do Alcoholics Suffer from a Cognitive Disorder?
Alcoholism is classed as a complex disease of the mind and emotions that stem from multiple influencers. Alcoholics are self-medicating, and the medical community agrees. The brain and body of alcoholics are affected by dopamine, which exasperates why they cannot stop drinking. The National Institute on Alcohol Abuse and Alcoholism has established that dopamine controls motivation and prompts a person to drink more.
Alcohol ingestion and even the anticipation that alcohol will be available produce dopamine release. Alcohol interacts with several neurotransmitter systems in the brain’s reward and stress circuits. These interactions produce alcohol’s acute reinforcing effects. Following chronic exposure, these interactions result in changes in neuronal function that underlie the development of sensitization, tolerance, withdrawal, and dependence. (NIAAA)
How Do I Support My Sober Friends?
The most important type of support for anyone getting and remaining sober is to encourage and congratulate them on their sobriety. Letting someone know that they are doing the right thing and should feel proud is always helpful, especially with alcoholism. Another way to let someone know that you are there for them is to give them gifts that reinforce their sobriety or recognize it. The following are solid recommendations on what to give or do for sober friends or relatives:
- Take them out to dinner
- Buy them a gym membership
- Gift them an Espresso maker or soda stream appliance
- Buy them a unique journal or leather-bound notebook
- Select Jewelry that is engraved with their sobriety date
- Throw them a non-alcohol get together and watch football or play games
- Gift them a Tea or coffee club (monthly gift box)
- Buy them a new I-pod, Mp4 player or another music player
- Find Books about Sobriety ( AA, mindfulness recovery)
- Go to a meeting with them and coffee afterward- if this applies
What Kind of Support is Helpful for Alcoholics?
Hands down, the most supportive gesture or action is to not drink around your friend. This is especially true if your friend was once your drinking buddy. Getting sober requires a new outlook and often leaving behind drinking friends. A real friend who does not have a problem with drinking should hang out with someone who needs friends and not drink. Recovery is very often lonely. Even though alcohol is the number one abused substance, many people don’t quit when they should, and those who do are in small numbers compared to the rest of the world.
How Can I Help a Loved One With a Drinking Problem?
When someone has decided to help a friend or relative get help for their drinking, they have already begun—and the next crucial steps to seek out professional, evidence-based treatment. Today alcoholics receive behavioral therapy and in-depth counseling unique to why they self-medicate with alcohol. Treatment works when the individual is treated with compassion and understanding. Quitting drinking is super challenging, and we recommend long-term therapies.
EVOKE Coconut Creek Offers Personalized Treatment for Alcoholics
Do not let your friend or loved one go another day drunk. They need a lot of help to get to treatment. It is about supporting them through the process. We make admission to all of our evidence-based programs simple. First, speak to us about the types of treatment we provide, and we will outline the next steps and have your loved one admitted today. Call now to begin.